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Tools For Success

Tools For Success

You’ve probably heard a lot about behavior, both positive and negative. Stuff like; your parents are pleased with your behavior, the school would like your behavior to improve, etc. You can probably think of at least one thing you do that causes you to get in trouble a lot. It might be something that you’ve really tried to control but you keep finding yourself in situations where it gets the best of you. It sounds too simple, but our behavior is controlled by what we think. Unfortunately, some of the stuff we think isn’t true. You and your JSO will be working a lot on helping you to figure out how your thoughts and behavior are connected.

Here are some of the tools you’ll be using:

Steps to apologizing (An apology is not necessarily an admission of guilt).

1. Say you are sorry
2. State what you did wrong
3. State why it was wrong
4. Make a commitment for the future (not to do it again)

Steps to following instructions

1. Listen– Show your are listening by:

A. Good eye contact
B. No inappropriate non verbals (eye rolling, sighing, etc)
C. No interruptions
D. Do Not Argue

2. Clarify the instructions to make sure you understand

3. Follow the Instructions

4. Check Back

Steps to accepting criticism

1. Listen– Show your are listening by:

A. Good eye contact
B. No inappropriate non verbals (eye rolling, sighing, etc)
C. No interruptions
D. Do Not Argue

2. No Excuses

3. Give Suggestions on how to solve the problem and ask for suggestions on how to solve the problem.

4. Make an agreement about what you will do differently

5. Say "Thank You"

6. Follow through on the agreement

Steps for problem solving

Stop and Think and Identify the Problem – Think about the warning signs you might notice just before the problem occurs. For example, let’s say you tend to hit people or break things when you get angry. You notice that just before you lose your temper, you ball up your fists. Knowing your warning signs can help you avoid trouble.

Clarify Goals – Think about what you want to happen. Is it realistic? For example, if you have problems with one of your teachers, it is not realistic goal to say just stay away from that teacher.

Generate Alternative Solutions and Choose Your Best Option – Think about all the different ways you could solve the problem and pick the best one. Write each solution down as it comes to you. Now look over your list. Which option can help you solve the problem without getting into more trouble?

Develop a Plan – Think all of the steps required to put use your solution.

Implement the Plan – Use your plan the next time the problem comes up.

Evaluate the Plan – Did your plan solve the problem? Did it get you the results you wanted? What changes do you need to make so the plan works better?